Manuela
๐๐จ๐ฐ ๐ญ๐จ ๐ฌ๐ฎ๐ซ๐ฏ๐ข๐ฏ๐ ๐ญ๐ก๐ ๐ก๐จ๐ฅ๐ข๐๐๐ฒ ๐ฌ๐๐๐ฌ๐จ๐ง ๐ฌ๐ญ๐ซ๐๐ฌ๐ฌ-๐๐ซ๐๐
It would be nice to handle the holiday season smoothly, without feeling stressed, annoyed and overwhelmed even before it started. . . Here are some tips to navigate it and stay sane! . . ๐ - ๐๐ฌ๐ฌ๐๐ฌ๐ฌ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐ง๐๐๐๐ฌ ๐๐ง๐ ๐ฐ๐๐ง๐ญ๐ฌ ๐๐จ๐ซ ๐ญ๐ก๐ ๐ฌ๐๐๐ฌ๐จ๐ง. Take some time to think about your emotional, physical, spiritual and social needs, and keep them in mind when evaluating whether or not you can commit to an engagement. . Setting boundaries is a courageous act of putting ourselves first. Itโs a great way to break the people-pleasing habit and practice self-care. . . ๐- ๐๐ฅ๐๐๐ซ๐ฅ๐ฒ ๐๐จ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฎ๐ง๐ข๐๐๐ญ๐ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐ฉ๐ฅ๐๐ง๐ฌ. While itโs tempting to make excuses in an attempt to spare feelings, if youโre not truthful and direct, youโll risk to create more unnecessary hurt and stress. Keep it simple, stick to the facts and practise delivering your message. . If you need time before agreeing or not to an invitation, try saying *๐กโ๐๐๐ ๐ฆ๐๐ข ๐๐๐ ๐กโ๐ ๐๐๐ฃ๐๐ก๐๐ก๐๐๐, ๐ผ ๐๐ ๐๐๐ก ๐ ๐ข๐๐ ๐๐ ๐ผ ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐ ๐๐ข๐ก ๐ผ ๐โ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐ก ๐ฆ๐๐ข ๐๐๐๐ค* . . ๐- ๐ฌ๐๐ญ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐๐จ๐ฎ๐ง๐๐๐ซ๐ข๐๐ฌ ๐๐ง๐ ๐ซ๐๐ข๐ง๐๐จ๐ซ๐๐ ๐ญ๐ก๐๐ฆ. It's okay to need time alone or decide to only join a part of the family celebrations if that's what you need at that moment, despite what everyone else thinks. There is no shame in asking for your feelings to be acknowledged or your needs to be met . . ๐- ๐ฌ๐ญ๐จ๐ฉ ๐๐จ๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ฌ ๐๐๐๐๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐๐ซ๐ ๐ฌ๐ฎ๐ฉ๐ฉ๐จ๐ฌ๐๐ ๐ญ๐จ. Difficult honesty is not unkindness. Itโs not mean to stand up for yourself. Itโs actually the most truthful and authentic way to interact with others. . . ๐- ๐จ๐๐๐๐ซ ๐ฉ๐จ๐ฌ๐ข๐ญ๐ข๐ฏ๐ ๐๐ฅ๐ญ๐๐ซ๐ง๐๐ญ๐ข๐ฏ๐๐ฌ ๐ฐ๐ก๐๐ง ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐๐๐๐ฅ๐ข๐ง๐ ๐๐ง ๐ข๐ง๐ฏ๐ข๐ญ๐๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง. Let the other know that you still value time with them, even if in a different setting . โ๐ผ ๐๐ ๐๐๐ก ๐๐๐๐๐ ๐ก๐ ๐๐๐๐ก๐๐๐๐๐๐ก๐ ๐๐ [๐๐๐ ๐๐ฃ๐๐๐ก]. ๐ผ ๐ค๐๐ข๐๐ ๐๐๐ฃ๐ ๐ก๐ ๐๐๐๐ฃ๐ ๐๐ข๐ก ๐ ๐๐๐ฆ ๐ก๐ ๐ ๐๐๐๐ ๐ก๐๐๐๐กโ๐๐, ๐๐ข๐ ๐ก ๐กโ๐ ๐ก๐ค๐ ๐๐ ๐ข๐ . ๐ถ๐๐ ๐ค๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ง๐ ๐ ๐๐๐๐กโ๐๐๐?โ
.โ๐ผ ๐๐๐๐๐๐ฆ ๐๐๐๐ ๐ ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐ ๐ก๐๐๐ ๐ก๐ ๐๐๐ ๐ก ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐โ๐๐๐๐. ๐โ๐๐ก ๐ ๐๐๐, ๐ก๐๐๐ ๐ค๐๐กโ ๐ฆ๐๐ข ๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐ฆ ๐๐๐๐๐๐ก๐๐๐ก ๐ก๐ ๐๐ ๐๐ ๐ค๐๐๐. ๐ถ๐๐ ๐ค๐ ๐ค๐๐๐ ๐ก๐๐๐๐กโ๐๐ ๐ก๐ ๐๐๐๐ ๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐กโ๐๐ก ๐ค๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐กโ ๐๐ ๐ข๐ ?โ . . ๐- ๐ช๐ฎ๐๐ฌ๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง ๐๐ง๐ ๐๐ฏ๐๐ฅ๐ฎ๐๐ญ๐ ๐ญ๐ก๐ ๐๐ฑ๐ฉ๐๐๐ญ๐๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐ฌ ๐ญ๐ก๐๐ญ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐๐ง๐ ๐ญ๐ก๐ ๐ฉ๐๐จ๐ฉ๐ฅ๐ ๐๐ซ๐จ๐ฎ๐ง๐ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐ก๐๐ฏ๐. There is a lot of unspoken expectations around the time of Christmas. Presents, time spent with family, time spent with friends, number of activities done, number of dinners. Things that you have probably known and done since you are a kid because that's just how it is. You can take a moment and revisit them, which one of those you want to maintain and how you want to change the others. . . It's perfectly okay to not be okay with some dynamics that have been going on for years and years. . . Setting boundaries can be a loving, compassionate, and kind gesture as well. It takes a great deal of courage to speak up and alter old ways of relating to others, especially in your family. . Every time you set a boundary, you bring your outer world into alignment with your inner needs. . . Which one would you like to focus on this holiday season?
