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๐‡๐จ๐ฐ ๐ญ๐จ ๐ฌ๐ฎ๐ซ๐ฏ๐ข๐ฏ๐ž ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐ก๐จ๐ฅ๐ข๐๐š๐ฒ ๐ฌ๐ž๐š๐ฌ๐จ๐ง ๐ฌ๐ญ๐ซ๐ž๐ฌ๐ฌ-๐Ÿ๐ซ๐ž๐ž

It would be nice to handle the holiday season smoothly, without feeling stressed, annoyed and overwhelmed even before it started. . . Here are some tips to navigate it and stay sane! . . ๐Ÿ - ๐š๐ฌ๐ฌ๐ž๐ฌ๐ฌ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐ง๐ž๐ž๐๐ฌ ๐š๐ง๐ ๐ฐ๐š๐ง๐ญ๐ฌ ๐Ÿ๐จ๐ซ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐ฌ๐ž๐š๐ฌ๐จ๐ง. Take some time to think about your emotional, physical, spiritual and social needs, and keep them in mind when evaluating whether or not you can commit to an engagement. . Setting boundaries is a courageous act of putting ourselves first. Itโ€™s a great way to break the people-pleasing habit and practice self-care. . . ๐Ÿ- ๐‚๐ฅ๐ž๐š๐ซ๐ฅ๐ฒ ๐œ๐จ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฎ๐ง๐ข๐œ๐š๐ญ๐ž ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐ฉ๐ฅ๐š๐ง๐ฌ. While itโ€™s tempting to make excuses in an attempt to spare feelings, if youโ€™re not truthful and direct, youโ€™ll risk to create more unnecessary hurt and stress. Keep it simple, stick to the facts and practise delivering your message. . If you need time before agreeing or not to an invitation, try saying *๐‘กโ„Ž๐‘Ž๐‘›๐‘˜ ๐‘ฆ๐‘œ๐‘ข ๐‘“๐‘œ๐‘Ÿ ๐‘กโ„Ž๐‘’ ๐‘–๐‘›๐‘ฃ๐‘–๐‘ก๐‘Ž๐‘ก๐‘–๐‘œ๐‘›, ๐ผ ๐‘Ž๐‘š ๐‘›๐‘œ๐‘ก ๐‘ ๐‘ข๐‘Ÿ๐‘’ ๐‘–๐‘“ ๐ผ ๐‘๐‘Ž๐‘› ๐‘—๐‘œ๐‘–๐‘› ๐‘๐‘ข๐‘ก ๐ผ ๐‘โ„Ž๐‘’๐‘๐‘˜ ๐‘Ž๐‘›๐‘‘ ๐‘™๐‘’๐‘ก ๐‘ฆ๐‘œ๐‘ข ๐‘˜๐‘›๐‘œ๐‘ค* . . ๐Ÿ‘- ๐ฌ๐ž๐ญ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐›๐จ๐ฎ๐ง๐๐š๐ซ๐ข๐ž๐ฌ ๐š๐ง๐ ๐ซ๐ž๐ข๐ง๐Ÿ๐จ๐ซ๐œ๐ž ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ฆ. It's okay to need time alone or decide to only join a part of the family celebrations if that's what you need at that moment, despite what everyone else thinks. There is no shame in asking for your feelings to be acknowledged or your needs to be met . . ๐Ÿ’- ๐ฌ๐ญ๐จ๐ฉ ๐๐จ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ฌ ๐›๐ž๐œ๐š๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ž ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐š๐ซ๐ž ๐ฌ๐ฎ๐ฉ๐ฉ๐จ๐ฌ๐ž๐ ๐ญ๐จ. Difficult honesty is not unkindness. Itโ€™s not mean to stand up for yourself. Itโ€™s actually the most truthful and authentic way to interact with others. . . ๐Ÿ“- ๐จ๐Ÿ๐Ÿ๐ž๐ซ ๐ฉ๐จ๐ฌ๐ข๐ญ๐ข๐ฏ๐ž ๐š๐ฅ๐ญ๐ž๐ซ๐ง๐š๐ญ๐ข๐ฏ๐ž๐ฌ ๐ฐ๐ก๐ž๐ง ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐๐ž๐œ๐ฅ๐ข๐ง๐ž ๐š๐ง ๐ข๐ง๐ฏ๐ข๐ญ๐š๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง. Let the other know that you still value time with them, even if in a different setting . โ€œ๐ผ ๐‘Ž๐‘š ๐‘›๐‘œ๐‘ก ๐‘”๐‘œ๐‘–๐‘›๐‘” ๐‘ก๐‘œ ๐‘๐‘Ž๐‘Ÿ๐‘ก๐‘–๐‘๐‘–๐‘๐‘Ž๐‘ก๐‘’ ๐‘–๐‘› [๐‘Ž๐‘‘๐‘‘ ๐‘’๐‘ฃ๐‘’๐‘›๐‘ก]. ๐ผ ๐‘ค๐‘œ๐‘ข๐‘™๐‘‘ ๐‘™๐‘œ๐‘ฃ๐‘’ ๐‘ก๐‘œ ๐‘๐‘Ž๐‘Ÿ๐‘ฃ๐‘’ ๐‘œ๐‘ข๐‘ก ๐‘Ž ๐‘‘๐‘Ž๐‘ฆ ๐‘ก๐‘œ ๐‘ ๐‘๐‘’๐‘›๐‘‘ ๐‘ก๐‘œ๐‘”๐‘’๐‘กโ„Ž๐‘’๐‘Ÿ, ๐‘—๐‘ข๐‘ ๐‘ก ๐‘กโ„Ž๐‘’ ๐‘ก๐‘ค๐‘œ ๐‘œ๐‘“ ๐‘ข๐‘ . ๐ถ๐‘Ž๐‘› ๐‘ค๐‘’ ๐‘œ๐‘Ÿ๐‘”๐‘Ž๐‘›๐‘–๐‘ง๐‘’ ๐‘ ๐‘œ๐‘š๐‘’๐‘กโ„Ž๐‘–๐‘›๐‘”?โ€

.โ€œ๐ผ ๐‘Ÿ๐‘’๐‘Ž๐‘™๐‘™๐‘ฆ ๐‘›๐‘’๐‘’๐‘‘ ๐‘ ๐‘œ๐‘š๐‘’ ๐‘Ž๐‘™๐‘œ๐‘›๐‘’ ๐‘ก๐‘–๐‘š๐‘’ ๐‘ก๐‘œ ๐‘Ÿ๐‘’๐‘ ๐‘ก ๐‘Ž๐‘›๐‘‘ ๐‘Ÿ๐‘’๐‘โ„Ž๐‘Ž๐‘Ÿ๐‘”๐‘’. ๐‘‡โ„Ž๐‘Ž๐‘ก ๐‘ ๐‘Ž๐‘–๐‘‘, ๐‘ก๐‘–๐‘š๐‘’ ๐‘ค๐‘–๐‘กโ„Ž ๐‘ฆ๐‘œ๐‘ข ๐‘–๐‘  ๐‘Ÿ๐‘’๐‘Ž๐‘™๐‘™๐‘ฆ ๐‘–๐‘š๐‘๐‘œ๐‘Ÿ๐‘ก๐‘Ž๐‘›๐‘ก ๐‘ก๐‘œ ๐‘š๐‘’ ๐‘Ž๐‘  ๐‘ค๐‘’๐‘™๐‘™. ๐ถ๐‘Ž๐‘› ๐‘ค๐‘’ ๐‘ค๐‘œ๐‘Ÿ๐‘˜ ๐‘ก๐‘œ๐‘”๐‘’๐‘กโ„Ž๐‘’๐‘Ÿ ๐‘ก๐‘œ ๐‘“๐‘–๐‘›๐‘‘ ๐‘Ž ๐‘๐‘Ž๐‘™๐‘Ž๐‘›๐‘๐‘’ ๐‘กโ„Ž๐‘Ž๐‘ก ๐‘ค๐‘œ๐‘Ÿ๐‘˜๐‘  ๐‘“๐‘œ๐‘Ÿ ๐‘๐‘œ๐‘กโ„Ž ๐‘œ๐‘“ ๐‘ข๐‘ ?โ€ . . ๐Ÿ”- ๐ช๐ฎ๐ž๐ฌ๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง ๐š๐ง๐ ๐ž๐ฏ๐š๐ฅ๐ฎ๐š๐ญ๐ž ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐ž๐ฑ๐ฉ๐ž๐œ๐ญ๐š๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐ฌ ๐ญ๐ก๐š๐ญ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐š๐ง๐ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐ฉ๐ž๐จ๐ฉ๐ฅ๐ž ๐š๐ซ๐จ๐ฎ๐ง๐ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐ก๐š๐ฏ๐ž. There is a lot of unspoken expectations around the time of Christmas. Presents, time spent with family, time spent with friends, number of activities done, number of dinners. Things that you have probably known and done since you are a kid because that's just how it is. You can take a moment and revisit them, which one of those you want to maintain and how you want to change the others. . . It's perfectly okay to not be okay with some dynamics that have been going on for years and years. . . Setting boundaries can be a loving, compassionate, and kind gesture as well. It takes a great deal of courage to speak up and alter old ways of relating to others, especially in your family. . Every time you set a boundary, you bring your outer world into alignment with your inner needs. . . Which one would you like to focus on this holiday season?

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