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๐Ÿ๐Ÿ ๐๐ซ๐จ๐ฏ๐ž๐ง ๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ฌ ๐ญ๐จ ๐Ÿ๐จ๐œ๐ฎ๐ฌ ๐ญ๐จ ๐ฌ๐ญ๐จ๐ฉ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐ฉ๐ž๐จ๐ฉ๐ฅ๐ž ๐ฉ๐ฅ๐ž๐š๐ฌ๐ข๐งg



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You are still thinking about the reaction of your friend when you didn't want to go to the party the other day. โฃ

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Was she offended? โฃ

Will she invite you again?โฃ

Should you call her back and tell her that you changed your mind and go there to make her happy. She looked disappointed when you said no. โฃ

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And your partner? How can you bring up that their behaviours did hurt you, even if you brushed it off?โฃ

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If you say something it will make them feel bad, but at the same time, you feel uncomfortable with them. You are tucked between not wanting them to feel bad and feeling bad for yourself. โฃ

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You don't have time to think about it right now. โฃ

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Because you promised someone to help them with their move. They asked you, so they must trust you!โฃ

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๐‘ฐ๐’• ๐’…๐’๐’†๐’”๐’'๐’• ๐’Ž๐’‚๐’•๐’•๐’†๐’“ ๐’•๐’‰๐’‚๐’• ๐’š๐’๐’– ๐’‰๐’‚๐’—๐’† ๐’‚ ๐’๐’๐’๐’ˆ ๐’”๐’‰๐’Š๐’‡๐’• ๐’‚๐’• ๐’˜๐’๐’“๐’Œ ๐’‚๐’‰๐’†๐’‚๐’…, ๐’‚๐’๐’… ๐’๐’•๐’‰๐’†๐’“ ๐’•๐’‰๐’Š๐’๐’ˆ๐’” ๐’‘๐’๐’‚๐’๐’๐’†๐’…. ๐’€๐’๐’– ๐’„๐’‚๐’'๐’• ๐’ƒ๐’‚๐’„๐’Œ ๐’–๐’‘ ๐’‡๐’“๐’๐’Ž ๐’š๐’๐’–๐’“ ๐’‘๐’“๐’๐’Ž๐’Š๐’”๐’†, ๐’˜๐’‰๐’‚๐’• ๐’˜๐’๐’–๐’๐’… ๐’•๐’‰๐’†๐’š ๐’•๐’‰๐’Š๐’๐’Œ ๐’‚๐’ƒ๐’๐’–๐’• ๐’š๐’๐’–? โฃ

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That you are not a good friend.โฃ

That you are unreliable โฃ

That you don't careโฃ

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There is a not-so-fine line between genuinely caring for others and the need to please them. โฃ

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People-pleasing is a coping mechanism that activates when you NEED to be liked and accepted. โฃ

You do it when you put others' needs before yours because your happiness is based on their approval. โฃ

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๐ˆ๐Ÿ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ฒ ๐๐จ๐ง'๐ญ ๐ฅ๐ข๐ค๐ž ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ, ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐ฅ๐ข๐Ÿ๐ž ๐ฌ๐ฎ๐œ๐ค๐ฌ. โฃ

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But you know that it sucks despite their approval. โฃ

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Because every day you feel resentment. โฃ

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"Why don't they take care of you as much as you take of them? "โฃ

"Why don't they show more gratitude for all your effort? "โฃ

"Are they taking advantage of your being nice?" โฃ

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๐ˆ๐Ÿ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐ก๐š๐ ๐ž๐ง๐จ๐ฎ๐ ๐ก ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ฌ, ๐ก๐ž๐ซ๐ž ๐Ÿ๐Ÿ ๐ฉ๐ซ๐จ๐ฏ๐ž๐ง ๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ฌ ๐ญ๐จ ๐Ÿ๐จ๐œ๐ฎ๐ฌ ๐จ๐ง ๐ญ๐จ ๐ฌ๐ญ๐จ๐ฉ ๐ฉ๐ž๐จ๐ฉ๐ฅ๐ž-๐ฉ๐ฅ๐ž๐š๐ฌ๐ข๐ง๐ โฃ

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โœจbecome aware of when you are people-pleasing and ask yourself "do I really want to do this?"โฃ

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โœจwork on your self-love and self-worthโฃ

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โœจspend time finding out about yourself, your needs and your desiresโฃ

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โœจlearn a new way to communicate and practice in a safe environmentโฃ

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โœจdecide your boundaries, see them as an act of self-loveโฃ

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โœจrealize that your voice is an important part of yourselfโฃ

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โœจpractice saying no with convictionโฃ

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โœจsit and explore your discomfortโฃ

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โœจget down from your pedestal: the world will continue moving on even if you don't help everyone for a day, it's not all about youโฃ

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โœจstart small and celebrate any successโฃ

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โœจseek support โฃ

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๐๐ซ๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐ฆ๐จ๐ซ๐ž ๐ก๐จ๐ง๐ž๐ฌ๐ญ๐ฒ ๐ข๐ง ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐ซ๐ž๐ฅ๐š๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐ฌ๐ก๐ข๐ฉ ๐ฐ๐ข๐ญ๐ก ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ๐ฌ๐ž๐ฅ๐Ÿ, ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐ฐ๐ข๐ฅ๐ฅ ๐š๐ฅ๐ฌ๐จ ๐ž๐ง๐ ๐ฎ๐ฉ ๐ข๐ฆ๐ฉ๐ซ๐จ๐ฏ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐ซ๐ž๐ฅ๐š๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐ฌ๐ก๐ข๐ฉ ๐ฐ๐ข๐ญ๐ก ๐จ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ซ๐ฌ. โฃ

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๐€๐ง๐ ๐ญ๐ก๐š๐ญ ๐ก๐š๐ฌ ๐š๐ฅ๐ฐ๐š๐ฒ๐ฌ ๐›๐ž๐ž๐ง ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐ ๐จ๐š๐ฅ, ๐ข๐ฌ๐ง'๐ญ ๐ข๐ญ?




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