manuela iddas
๐๐จ๐จ๐ ๐ ๐ข๐ซ๐ฅ๐ฌ ๐๐ซ๐ ๐ง๐จ๐ญ ๐๐ฎ๐ง
โOh, you are such a lovely girl. โ
โYou are always available to help everyone else, you are always there for others. โ
โYour family and friends must be lucky to have youโ
โYou are always so easygoing and you are a great listenerโ
These sentences are familiar, isnโt it?
Because you are always there for others.
You run if a friend is in need and if you can, you will do everything in your power to help them.
You always place othersโ needs in front of yours because you love them, and you donโt want them to be unhappy.
You donโt want to create a nuisance or tension disagreeing or making a scene.
Everyone knows you are a great person, selfless and helpful.
And itโs nice. Makes you feel better. Makes you feel safe.
Yes, safe.
Because they donโt know how angry you are inside.
They donโt know you are super pissed with their sometimes impossible and dumb requests, and when you try to tell them, they donโt understand it.
Making you even more angry and annoyed.
You see that you are the one reaching out more often, to change your agenda to accommodate others, but what about when you ask for help?
Supposing that you do it. In the past, it was just disappointment. You have learned to just do it by yourself because itโs easier and less troublesome.
๐๐จ๐ฎ ๐ฉ๐ซ๐จ๐๐๐๐ฅ๐ฒ ๐ญ๐๐ฅ๐ฅ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ๐ฌ๐๐ฅ๐ ๐ญ๐ก๐๐ญ ๐ข๐ญโ๐ฌ ๐จ๐ค๐๐ฒ, ๐ญ๐ก๐๐ฒ ๐๐ซ๐ ๐๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ฒ, ๐ข๐ญ ๐๐จ๐๐ฌ๐งโ๐ญ ๐ซ๐๐๐ฅ๐ฅ๐ฒ ๐ฆ๐๐ญ๐ญ๐๐ซ.
It became your mantra, but inside you feel the tension building up and you are aware that you are going to explode one day or the other.
The resentment. The Duck Off everyone. Why it is never your turn?
๐๐จ๐ฎ ๐๐จ๐งโ๐ญ ๐ค๐ง๐จ๐ฐ ๐ก๐จ๐ฐ ๐ญ๐จ ๐๐๐๐ฅ ๐ฐ๐ข๐ญ๐ก ๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ฌ, ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐ฃ๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ญ ๐ซ๐๐ฉ๐ซ๐๐ฌ๐ฌ ๐ข๐ญ.
Until your body starts showing you signs of being unwell. Your digestion sucks. Your skin shows rushes. The body is in pain. The headaches that turn into migraines. You feel nauseous and sometimes you skip meals because your stomach is tightened by the nervousness.
๐๐ญโ๐ฌ ๐ญ๐ข๐ฆ๐ ๐ญ๐จ ๐ฐ๐๐๐ซ ๐ญ๐ก๐ ๐๐ข๐ -๐ ๐ข๐ซ๐ฅ'๐ฌ ๐ฉ๐๐ง๐ญ๐ฌ. ๐๐ง๐จ๐ฎ๐ ๐ก ๐จ๐ ๐ญ๐ก๐ ๐ฉ๐ซ๐๐ญ๐ญ๐ฒ ๐ ๐จ๐จ๐ ๐ฅ๐ข๐ญ๐ญ๐ฅ๐ ๐ ๐ข๐ซ๐ฅ.
Free yourself from other people's expectations.
Free yourself from the guilt of saying no - ๐๐ ๐๐ ๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐ก๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐ ๐ค๐๐ ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐ ๐'๐ก ๐๐๐๐ ๐ฆ๐๐ข ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐.
Free yourself from the shame to put yourself first - ๐ผ๐ ๐ฆ๐๐ข๐ ๐๐ข๐ ๐๐ ๐๐๐๐ก๐ฆ, โ๐๐ค ๐๐๐ ๐ฆ๐๐ข ๐๐๐ข๐ ๐๐ก ๐๐๐ก๐ ๐๐กโ๐๐๐ ?
Free yourself from the need to be approved by everyone.
๐๐ญ๐๐ซ๐ญ ๐ฅ๐จ๐ฏ๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ๐ฌ๐๐ฅ๐ ๐ ๐ฅ๐ข๐ญ๐ญ๐ฅ๐ ๐ฆ๐จ๐ซ๐.
Learn your boundaries, respect them and learn how to express them with grace.
Learn a new way of relating with others, that comes from mutual respect and not from subordination. A depth you have never thought possible.
Learn to embrace yourself in all your shades, so that people can get to know you better, authentically and you can experience the glory of being yourself.
Because really, not many people like someone with no opinions, no interests, and always available - ๐ด๐๐ ๐๐ ๐กโ๐๐ฆ ๐๐, ๐ฆ๐๐ข ๐๐๐โ๐ก ๐ค๐๐๐ก ๐ก๐ ๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐ ๐ก๐ ๐๐ข๐.
