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  • manuela iddas

๐ฒ๐ž๐ฌ, ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐š๐ซ๐ž ๐ฅ๐š๐ณ๐ฒ. ๐›๐ฎ๐ญ ๐ง๐จ๐ญ ๐Ÿ๐จ๐ซ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐ซ๐ž๐š๐ฌ๐จ๐ง ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ง๐ค

๐ฒ๐ž๐ฌ, ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐š๐ซ๐ž ๐ฅ๐š๐ณ๐ฒ. ๐›๐ฎ๐ญ ๐ง๐จ๐ญ ๐Ÿ๐จ๐ซ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐ซ๐ž๐š๐ฌ๐จ๐ง ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ง๐ค

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You want to change something in your life, and even if you tried multiple times, every single time you go back to the old habit.

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it is one of the goals for the new year, but by the time a few weeks roll in, it is already gone in the back of your mind.

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You feel like a failure. You feel ashamed that you are not able to keep your word to yourself and probably you got to the point where you don't even want to try anymore.

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There is a belief that bad habits are continued because of unmotivation, lack of self-love, or plain laziness.

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And it's true. There is laziness. But not in the way you think.

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The problem with this way of thinking is that it doesn't consider that behind every habit there is an emotional need, oftentimes unfilled and unconscious.

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People behave the way they behave to fulfil a need, to feel good feelings.

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Binge-eating, shopping spreads, gambling, and other "bad habits" are all mechanisms that provide temporary, short-term relief or even pleasure.

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Why cannot you drop that bad habit of yours then?

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When you talk about changing habits, there is no "I just have to keep going and there will be change one day".

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When you only try to change the outcome without looking at what's behind it, you are setting yourself up for a hard run, and probably for failure. It's not even scratching the surface.

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You have to do the work. You have to look down at which emotional needs of yours are unmet and decide that you are absolutely worthy to have them met.

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Your happiness is not about New Years resolutions. It is not about pushing yourself to do things things forcefully.

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Your happiness, fulfillment, drive all come from you shifting your energy towards your desires, and the strong clarity that you are worthy of them.

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How do you do that then?

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Get to know your exact subconscious blockages, and you will know the reason why you indulge in "bad habits".

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From there you can make the conscious decision to change and back it up with consistent little actions rooted in care for yourself.

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Which desires are you going to allow yourself to achieve?




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